Monday, November 23, 2009


I am so sick of my husband sometimes. We keep all of our finances seperate. Which isn't a problem so to speak, but I'm in school and I make a lot less than he does. I have no problem contributing most of what I make to our home. I buy groceries and all of our toiletries and buy things to fix up the house and even pay about 1/4 of utilites. However, every time we argue, it's his house, his cars, his everything. I'm not allowed to even use the car without asking, other than for work. I'm tired of it. He never takes me to do anything and we always fight about money. He is a saver 100% and I am a saver and a spender. I don't use credit cards or rack up debt or anything stupid, but I do like to buy a cheap shirt @ walmart from time to time. Now I'm faced with a really big problem...I'm in college part time, and my internship starts in 6 months. I won't be able to work. My husband is so in love with his own money, that I'm probably going to have to quit school. He won't help me out for a measly 6 months while I finish my internship. The financial issues has taken a real toll on our marriage. I can't deal with it. It's like I'm not good enough for his money or something. Now my hours @ my job have been cut in half and he still expects me to put in just as much as I was and I'm broke all the time now. I am so stressed out about this I hate even looking at him. I don't even know what I want to do at this point. I've never had access to his money and if I've ever needed any from him, I've had to pay every last dime back. I thought that marriage was supposed to be different than this. I'm truly sick of it. I don't think I'm being selfish either. He has a very healthy checking account with what equals my yearly income in it. He also has retirement accounts and another checking account he thinks I don't know about. I am on the verge of leaving again. We live more like room mates than we do a couple. What's the freaking point? I think this is a waste of my time.

1 comment:

  1. Hi, Harley, I hope you are fine.

    Maybe you can pray about it first and then try to open up the issue with him as calmly as possible. I don't know if your husband is also a Christian, but if he is, I think he would act Christianly about it and you can be comfortable confiding your thoughts to him on the matter.

    I believe some things happen for a reason. But things change and eventually you'd surely overcome this situation. I wish you well.